25 Jun RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING
Are you having problems with your partner? Does it feel like your relationship is on the verge of ending? Well, you are not the only one who goes through relationship problems, and the first step is to take comfort in that thought and accept that this is completely normal. After that you can decide whether to take help from your friends and family members or take professional help. But let’s be serious, how many of us would want to discuss our private issues with friends or burden our family with them? That’s when people go for relationship counselling.
WHAT IS RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING?
What they do in relationship counselling is that, the professional and skilled counsellors or therapists will attempt to improve the romantic relationship between you and your partner and resolve your conflicts. They listen very carefully and only then will try to help you by talking to you in a totally non-judgmental and friendly way. Also you get a third person point of view, someone who is looking at your relationship from outside and gives you an honest and unbiased advice. And the comforting part is that your conversation with the therapist is completely confidential, so you get help without everyone knowing about your interpersonal issues.
CAUSES THAT LEAD A COUPLE TO SEEK COUNSELLING
There are a million issues that can arise between a couple, as this is a kind of relationship which you start with a stranger to whom you eventually grow attached to, you expect a lot from your partner which often leads to disappointment and both the partners are supposed to be equals, so disrespecting your partner or thinking of him/her as subordinate to you can cause problems. The problems faced can be:
- Being too emotionally dependant on your partner
- Lack of communication
- Work stress can often affect relationships as well
- Lack of understanding or emotional connect
- Sexual problems
And many more….
HOW TO IDENTIFY THE NEED FOR RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING?
Though, you would know when your relationship is breaking apart, that you need counselling. But still it can happen sometimes that you might think that ‘No, it’s still self-reparable and these are just small issues that every couple has.’ That is when you can check if you and your partner have these issues:-
- Fighting over the same thing again and again
- Don’t feel emotionally connected to your partner, like you don’t understand each other anymore or when you feel alone emotionally
- Start seeing your partner as the villain
- Thinking of having an affair
- Problems in sexual life
- Afraid to talk to each other or not talking at all
- Fighting all the time
- Keeping secrets that is leading to trust issues
If you are having these problems it is better to seek professional help before it’s too late.
TYPES OF COUNSELLING
A lot of techniques and therapies have been discovered over the years. Different types of counselling works for different cases. The counsellor decides which approach would be best for a particular couple. Some types of counselling are:-
- Active listening: it is a technique that requires listener to fully concentrate, understand, respond and then remember what is being said.
- Cinematic Immersion: helps couples learn a method of communicating designed to create a safe environment for each partner to express and hear feelings.
- Integrative Behavioural Couples Therapy: is an approach that aims to help people overcome emotional and behavioural problems.
- Use of Oxytocin(love hormone): it is often used during counselling or therapy sessions, though its use is highly controversial.
- Solution-Focussed couples counselling: it focuses on finding solution to couples’ problems using short-term therapy.
There are many more such methods. These days some organisations are providing telecounselling and online counselling as well. I think this is also a great method as most people feel hesitation in talking about their personal problems face to face. When you are sitting in front of a stranger, making eye contact, it is normal to feel uncomfortable as you are about to expose yourself. So for those people online counselling is a great solution as you can be anonymous. But these days it has become a matter of safety, due to spread of COVID-19, so I guess online counselling is the best way to go these days.
After the session you will feel like there is a burden off your chest and will feel more relaxed.I know all this can be overwhelming and might seem like a lot of effort but when you are done with counselling you might end up with a healed relationship which means years of love and happiness.I think that’s a risk worth taking for.
Referred to: Wikipedia, www.huffpost.com, www.therapy1on1.com