Depression Counselling

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I was eighteen when I started feeling this pettish feeling in my tummy. The sad part remained that I knew how I was feeling but I was unable to communicate entirely it to the people around me. All I knew that I was unwell and tired not physically but emotionally. I did not want to get out of my bed. I hated the sound of an alarm because I found an escape in sleep. I was not ready to face the day, the world. I did not know if I would even find a place to break down if I leave my house. I remember breaking down while writing my exam sheet and all I wanted to do was to run away, away from everyone and everything. Sometimes it becomes stressful to explain what is going in our head, when we don’t even understand ourselves.

Depression is an illness that involves the body, mood, and thoughts and that affects the way a person eats, sleeps feels about himself or herself, and thinks about things. Depression is not the same as a passing blue mood. It is not a sign of personal weakness or a condition that can be wished away. People with depression cannot merely ‘pull themselves together’ and get better. Without treatment, symptoms can last for weeks, months, or years.

Symptoms of Depression

You may be depressed if, for more than two weeks, you’ve felt sad, down or miserable most of the time, or have lost interest or pleasure in usual activities, and have also experienced several of the signs and symptoms across at least three of the categories below.

It’s important to remember that we all experience some of these symptoms from time to time, and it may not necessarily mean you’re depressed. Equally, not everyone who is experiencing depression will have all of these symptoms. Symptoms varies from one person to another, however we have tried to jot down the common symptoms that are found in the humans of any age or gender.

1. Changes in sleep habits: There is a strong connection between mood and sleep. A lack of sleep can contribute to depression, and depression can make it more difficult to sleep. Sleeping too much can also be a sign that a person may have depression.

“Excess of everything is bad”, therefore no matter what the situation turns out to be, we need to stick to our routine and any change in the routine will immensely affect not only our physical health but mental health too.

2. Alcohol or drug use: Some people with mood disorders may use alcohol or drugs to cope with their feelings of sadness, loneliness, or hopelessness. Any sort of drug or intoxicant may give the individual some sort of relief for some time but this will not be permanent. It will damage his or her body in a longer run. Any kind of drug, will help in nothing but will be an escape from reality. Running away is or will never be the solution but to have the courage to face the reality and accept it at the same time will make you a stronger individual. Conversely, the same number of those with an alcohol or substance use disorder also have a mood disorder.

3. Fatigue: Feeling excessively tired is a very common symptom of depression. Some research suggests that over 90% of people with depression experience fatigue. Although everyone feels tired from time to time, people who have severe or persistent tiredness — especially if it accompanies other symptoms — may have hidden depression. Fatigue alone does not mean that a person is suffering from depression, certainly it needs to be

4. Forced happiness: Sometimes, people refer to hidden depression as “smiling depression.” This is because people who hide their symptoms may put on a happy face when in the company of others. However, it can be difficult to keep up this forced happiness, so the mask may slip and a person may show signs of sadness, hopelessness, or loneliness.

5. Less optimistic than others: Studies suggest that people with depression may have more pessimistic tendencies. There is a theory that people with depression may display a trait called “depressive realism,” which means that they may be “more accurate” in their view of events and the control they have over those events than people without depression. People with depression may also be more pessimistic. Studies suggest that those with major depressive disorder often have a more negative view of the future. Being more realistic or pessimistic than others may be one sign of depression, especially if the person has other possible symptoms of depression.

6. Loss of concentration: When a person trails off during conversations or loses their train of thought, it can indicate issues with memory and concentration, which is a common symptom of depression. A 2014 study suggests that these difficulties with concentration and focus can worsen the social impact of depression by making work life and personal relationships more challenging.

7. Disinterest in hobbies: The National Institute of Mental Health list a “loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities” as one of the tell-tale symptoms of depression. Disinterest in activities that a person used to enjoy can be one of the first signs that other people notice when their loved one has depression.

8. Disinterest in hobbies: Depression is a mental health condition, but it can also have physical consequences. In addition to weight changes and fatigue, other physical symptoms of hidden depression to look out for include:

  • backache
  • chronic pain conditions
  • digestive problems
  • headache

Research also indicates that those with major depression are more likely than those without the condition to experience:

  • Arthritis
  • autoimmune conditions
  • cancer
  • heart disease
  • type 2 diabetes
  • Being angry or irritable

Many people do not associate anger and irritability with depression, but these mood changes are not unusual among those with the condition.

Instead of appearing sad, some people with hidden depression may display irritability and overt or suppressed anger.

9. Low sex drive: Changes in sex drive a key indicator for diagnosing episodes of major depression. There are several reasons that a person’s libido might decrease when they have depression, including:

  • loss of interest in pleasurable activities such as sex
  • fatigue and low energy levels
  • low self-esteem

Depression sometimes can also me opposite of what we have stated above. People who are smiling outside might be breaking down inside. Every day happens to be a struggle for them. Smiling yet not complaining about how everything is affecting them can be life threatening. This situation is worse than the former one as it cannot be detected or observed at the first place. There are so many instances of people committing suicides who have been living a great and happy life but all that we could conclude was, THEY WERE NOT HAPPY.

People think depression is crying. People think depression is being quiet. Depression is when we smile but we want to cry, it’s when we talk but we want to be quiet. It is when we pretend that we are happy but we are not.


I drank to drown the pain but the pain learned how to swim. I was sick of crying, tired of trying, smiling but inside I was dying. We use filters to lighten up our photos because we carry the huge weight of stress.

So what I learnt from my experience was, it is okay to have highlight reels but make sure you tell someone how you feel. It is okay to use facetime but make sure that you spend quality time with someone face to face. It’s okay to have followers but make sure you have true friends too. Talking it out will make not shorten the journey but will make it easier to travel. Therefore, we are here for you, TO HEAR YOU.

Frequently Asked Questions

Q - What are the signs of Depression?

Answer: Feeling long term of sadness, emptiness or hopelessness, angry outbreak, irritability or frustration even over small matters, difficulty in enjoying activities one used to like earlier, changes in weight and appetite, difficulty in concentrating, anxiety, agitation or restlessness, difficulty in sleeping are some of the signs of Depression.

Q - Can a person seem to be happy while in Depression?

Answer: Yes, many times, Depression in an individual goes unnoticeable. He/she may seem happy on the outside but have been going through a lot on the inside.

Q - Can suicidal thoughts cpme while in Depression?

Answer: Yes, suicidal thoughts are common with people who are in Depression. They feel suicide to be an easy way to go away from all the problems.

Q - How Can a psychologist help me to cure my Depression?

Answer: While talking to a psychologist, you let your inner thoughts come out freely and let all your loneliness fade away. A professional psychologist while talking you will suggest you many ways that would help you cure your Depression.

Q - Can Depression affect one’s family?

Answer: When any member of the family faces any trouble, it goes on to affect the whole of the family. In a similar way, Depression to one member of the family Can disturb other members of the family too.

Q - What are the causes of Depression?

Answer: There is no certain fact that tells about the causes of Depression. It Can be due to a change in hormones, biological differences, brain chemistry, bad experiences etc.

Q - are the causes of Depression the same in all individuals?

Answer: No, the cause of Depression varies as per individual and according to the age. Our professional psychologist will help you to find your cause of Depression in order to get out of it.

Q - How does counseling help with Depression?

Answer: Counseling aims to assist or guide the individual to understand why and How Depression has been aroused. Depending on one’s circumstances, the therapist may include various therapies to help the individual’s state of mind.

Q - How does therapy work?

Answer: the professional psychologist would assist a therapy as per the client’s need so as to lift up his/her mood while working on removing Depression. Relaxation Techniques, CBT and Skill development are generally practiced. At times, the therapist may even combine all the above three approaches for them to work best.

Q - For How many days does Depression stays?

Answer: Although Depression may occur only once during your life, a few people have multiple episodes of Depression, which means it happens to them at a certain period of time, stays for a while and repeats again after a certain period of time.

Written By Oas Walia