Stress Counselling

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What Exactly is Stress ?

Stress is a six-letter word which drives the entire body of a human crazy. Everyone around is talking about how stressful their life is but are we really aware of the actual stress that we are even referring to?

Stress is a situation that triggers a particular biological response. When you perceive a threat or a major challenge, chemicals and hormones surge throughout your body. Stress triggers your fight-or-flight response in order to fight the stressor or run away from it. Typically, after the response occurs, your body should relax. Too much constant stress can have negative effects on your long-term health.

We as human beings have a tendency to over analyses, overthink and overreact to the situations that may or may not have occurred but their possibility of occurrence constantly triggers our mental health and keeps us under stress.

What Causes Stress ?

Stress is not what happens to us. It’s our response to what happens. There are many causes of stress which may be existing in our life actually, at times they may not. But what remains constant in the entire process, is the pressure that we carry on her brains and let it conquer ourselves.

To make it a little easier to analyze, below mentioned are a few instances when a human gets under stress:

Causes Factors
1 Job Pressure Co-Worker Tension, Bosses, Work Overload
2 Money Loss Of Job, Reduced Retirement, Medical Expenses
3 Health Health Crisis,Terminal or Chronic illness
4 Relationship Dirvoce, Death Of Spouse, Argument with friends, Loneliness
5 Poor Nutrition Inadequate Nutrition, Caffeine, Processed Food, Refined Sugars
6 Media Overload Television, Radio, Internet, Social, Networking
7 Sleep Deprivation Inability to release adrenaline and other stress hormones

Types of stress:

When it comes to stress, or learning about types of stress we need to begin with the primary types of stress which we can connect with easily or can identify around us. Below are mentioned a few types of stress:

1. Acute stress: Acute stress is usually temporary. It is the most popular and regular presentation. Acute stress is most often caused by reactive reasoning. Negative feelings predominate about circumstances or occurrences that have recently occurred, or upcoming circumstances, occurrences, or pressures in the near future.

For example, if you have recently been involved in an argument, you may have acute stress related to negative feelings that are redundant about the argument.

Or you may have acute stress that is about an upcoming work deadline, again the stress is thought induced. However, most often when the thinking induced stress is reduced or removed the stress will subside too.

2. Episodic Acute Stress: People who frequently experience acute stress, or whose lives present with frequent triggers of stress, have episodic acute stress.

The people who frequently suffer acute stress often live a life of chaos and hardship. They are always in a hurry or feel pressured. They take on many responsibilities and usually can not stay organized with so many time pressures. These individuals are always in the grips of acute stress overload.

Episodic acute stress is divided into two groups namely:

  • Type A: Type A personality have a grand competitive drive, aggressiveness, uncertainty, rapid, and a sense of time urgency. In addition, Type A personality presents as reactive with hostility, and almost always deep-seated insecurity about performance. These personality traits create regular attacks of acute stress for the Type A individual
  • The “Worrier”: The Worrier breaks with almost endless negative thoughts causing episodic acute stress on physical and mental health. “Worry warts” project apparent disaster and negatively forecast a crisis in almost every situation. They have core beliefs that the world is a dangerous, unrewarding, punishing place where something awful is always about to happen. These pessimistic binge thinkers also tend to be over stirred and tense, but are more anxious and depressed than angry and hostile. Their thoughts are frequently filled with “What if….” statements that are with projected negative outcomes.

3. Chronic Stress: Chronic stress is the most dangerous type of stress. If chronic stress is left untreated over a long period of time, it can considerably and often irreversibly damage your physical health and deteriorate your mental health.

For example, long term poverty, repeated abuse in any form, unemployment, dysfunctional family, poor work environment, substance abuse, or an unhappy marriage can cause significant chronic stress.

Chronic stress can also set in when an individual feels hopeless, does not see an escape from the cause of stress, and gives up on seeking solutions. Chronic stress can be caused by aversive experiences in childhood or traumatic event later in life.

How to cope up with stress?

There are few words that are associated with stress management that we are addicted to. I really cannot understand the concept of stress management because we manage the things that are precious to us, our business, our family, our money, our wealth, our children.

Why would anybody manage stress?

So basically, we as a human being have concluded that stress has become a part of our lives. In order to get relief from stress, we need to remove it from our lives than focusing on the methods to manage it. Stress is nothing but our inability to deal with a certain situation. Stress is not because of the nature of your work. For instance, the Prime Minister is complaining about the stress while the watchman has his own stresses and in between every person has stress, even an unemployed who has nothing to do also has stress.

Therefore, stress is not because of your job, it’s just because we do not know how to manage our body, our energy, our chemistry or our emotions.

“We are functioning by accident, therefore everything is stressful.”

In order to take out stress from our lives, we need to understand the mechanism of our bodies so that we don’t live by chance, blundering through life. We need to change the context of our life and not focus on the content of our lives. Changing content will never help because the activities that we are performing will always remain constant but the only way that we can help ourselves is by changing the way or manner of doing a certain activity. Essentially, the quality of our lives change and transform not because we change the content of our life but because we change the context of our life. Now changing the context is something which is voluntary and we will do willfully while changing the content will not be easy because for that we will need permissions from the situations that we are stuck in. For instance, falling in life will make us feel relieved because we have changed the context of our life but falling out from one will again make out life stressful and we will feel miserable. When we talk about changing the context of our life, we talk about changing the manner of our situations.

For instance, there were three masons laboring in the same place. A man walked towards them and asked the first man about what he was up to and the mason very angrily said: “Can’t you see what I am doing you fool, I am cutting stones.”

Then the man walked up to the second mason and asked him the same question while he very softly replied that he doing what he is asked to do.

Then the man walked up to one third mason and after he has put up the same question to me, to his surprise the mason said “ I am building a very beautiful temple here.”

Therefore, the moral of the story is that all the men were working in the same job but what differentiated their quality of life is their experiences which are world’s apart.

Role of a Therapist in dealing with stress

Talking to an expert about the difficulties one has been experiencing can help understanding and underlying issued that may be the reason behind all that stress. For instance, one has low self-esteem and working with their therapist, they can identify the stress triggers and discuss ways of preventing or coping with them. There is no such thing as magic that could help one relieve stress. One could simply make efforts to control it and for which a helping hand of a professional would do wonders. As the therapist could suggest effective stress management techniques which would involve selecting a variety of ways to deal with stress and putting it into practice over a period of a time. A particular stress management technique might be effective on a few occasions, but not forever and a day, thus one needs to be ready to implement new ones at any given time. This use of stress management procedures could help one grow from the stress in their lives rather than being helpless by it.

Frequently Asked Questions

Q - When do I know that I need stress counseling?

Answer: If you are feeling frustrated or agitated, overwhelmed, teary, anxious, facing low self-esteem issues and try to avoid interacting with anyone socially, you need stress counseling.

Q - What is the need for a professional psychologist to relieve my stress?

Answer: A professional psychologist knows how to combat stress and lead you towards a relaxed and happy life by talking to you and offering you various therapies, relaxation techniques and Cognitive therapy approach as well.

Q - Are there any physical symptoms of stress too?

Answer: Yes, there are physical symptoms of stress as well apart from the mental ones. These include difficulty in falling asleep, digestive issues, dizziness, and nausea, sweating excessively, any kind of substance abuse to seek comfort, chest pains or palpitations, etc.

Q - How can counseling relieve my stress and tension?

Answer: When you speak your heart out to somebody, your mind and body automatically feel relaxed and burdenless. Just by letting your thoughts, feelings, and emotions out and to a right person that is a professional psychologist can help relieve all your tension and stress.

Q - What is the role of the therapist in relieving stress?

Answer: Talking to an expert about the difficulties one has been experiencing can help understanding and underlying issues that could be the reason behind all that stress.

Q - Taking a few days off the work or going on a vacation can relieve stress?

Answer: Yes, a vacation or leave from the stressful work environment can definitely help to reduce stress. But, there is always a need for a professional therapist to get rid off all the stress and live a relaxed life ahead. As the therapist could suggest effective stress management techniques which would involve selecting a variety of ways to deal with stress and putting them into practice over a period of time.

Q - What gets affected primarily by stress?

Answer: An individual’s health is disturbed first and most when he has any kind of stress. And, thus it becomes really very important to get rid of any of the stresses in life.

Q - What are the causes of stress?

Answer: Stress can work-related, family-related or even health-related. There is no such common cause of stress in different individuals.

Q - Can my stress have an effect on the family members?

Answer: Family members come in the first place when it comes to caring about you. And, thus your stress can definitely have an effect on them.

Q - Do my family members also need counseling sessions due to my stress?

Answer: If it has been a long time that you and your family members have been dealing with your stress, chances are they might have also got affected due to it and would require professional counseling sessions from an expert.